Some Men Just Don’t Want To Sleep With You

Geplaatst op 11-12-2025

There are these conversations I have with female friends of mine and the other men they deal with. They sometimes talk to me about why a man won't call them back or won't invite them over or take some time to get together with them. This is not to say they're unaccustomed to rejection. Most people understand it quite well, and some are even quite used to it.

What some women aren't used to is when they're rejected for the very reason they thought they would be accepted. These women have a hard time understanding why this man won't come over when all the woman really wants to do, all she ever wanted to do with this man, was to have sex with him. She didn't want a relationship. She didn't want a friendship. She didn't even want a conversation about other things. She just wanted to hit. And yet, this guy she wants to hit is ducking and dodging her. What gives?

I'll tell you what gives.

Understanding That Not All Men Want You

Ladies, we don't want to sleep with all of you.

No, this isn't a temporary thing. It's not that we don't feel like it this week. We don't feel like it right now and we don't see ourselves feeling like it ever.

We don't want to sleep with you.

No that does not make us gay. No that does not mean we have some "situation" going on. No that does not mean we have some issues with our instrument.

We don't want to sleep with you.

No that does not mean you're ugly. No that does not mean you're fat. No that does not mean you have bad breath.

We don't want to sleep with you.

That could mean we're busy. That could mean we don't care. That could mean we're tired. But none of those reasons mean in their opposite form, something will change, and we will want to sleep with you. Women are attracted to men for varied reasons beyond just the physical, and men operate in reverse.

Women like to think there's something wrong with a man who won't accept some hot sex on a platter. They are right there, completely available, a body ready to be used in the most indulgent ways possible. And here is this man, a being whose nature it is to pounce all over such opportunities, and he's not taking it. What's wrong with her?

Absolutely nothing.

The Misconception About Respect And Desire

It boggles my mind when a woman assumes my ability to restrain my sexual desires around her is a testament to how much I respect her. As though, my not wanting to sleep with her is because I think more highly of her than the other women who I do want to sleep with. Women need men and understanding that not all attraction follows a logical pattern.

I have written before about how sometimes sex is the ultimate compliment, and how some women have a tendency to overvalue their sexual worth. This is not to say their bodies and the pleasure of them are not worth whatever it takes to get access to them, because as far as I'm concerned, if a man really wants to be with a woman, he'll stop at nothing. And thus, women should have their rules and their standards.

The problem comes into focus when women begin over-thinking why a man doesn't want to have sex with her. They come up with all of these reasons and treat it like a problem they can solve, when really there is nothing they can do now or later to fix it.

Trust me, if there's one thing I have gotten used to, if there's one thing most men are used to, it's rejection from the opposite sex for what seems to be no reason whatsoever. Even when a woman tries to convince me the problem lies with her, not me, I don't accept such rhetoric. Girls don't write back sometimes and men experience the same rejection.

Quite the contrary.

I do think the problem is me, and as a matter of fact, I know what the problem is. The problem is, I tried to sleep with a woman who as it turns out doesn't want to sleep with me. Maybe a woman should think the same thing the next time she's wondering what a man's problem is when he says he doesn't want to sleep with her.